Yeah, I'm a couple days behind commenting on this post
linked from protein wisdom
This part had me cracking up...
Personally, I like the idea of a thousand masculinities blooming and all of them able to recognize women as equal selves and citizens.
Masculinities don't BLOOM.
Go read it if you like but it's just a name calling screed against any man who is "right wing". Or woman for that matter. It's all about the wrong sort of masculinity. A failure of manliness, what he calls "weenie-boys."
More seriously, it's clear this guy (and it is a guy) does not like the idea of a thousand masculinities, he likes the idea of approved masculinities... apparently the sort of masculinities that bloom.
Even more seriously, in real life nearly all masculinities recognize women as equal selves. The idea that they don't is what keeps people like this professor employed in Women's Studies. Without a patriarchy actively oppressing women this guy is out of a job.
And more seriously yet, masculinity today is always used as an insult. It's the feminist approved version of "you're just a girl." It's acceptable to denigrate masculinity and that's a sad and sorry thing. I hear it from ladies all the time. Men!
Are we really that sexist? You know this "equal partnership" thing? I expect my husband to check with me about things but I expect him to have the authority of a grown-up over his life. I don't know if I'm seeing my liberal female friends on bad days, but I see them treat their husbands in ways that I wouldn't want to be treated and ways that I would never treat my husband.
It seems like the more we go on about equality the more that we have to define our differences in order to do it. People just are. Men aren't like women... much. Women aren't like men... often. But we're even less like each other than that.
When people use masculinity like a hammer they invariably pound away at things that define *me*.
The thing about that is that I'm not unfeminine.
Which makes me wonder why those things... politics and preferences and ideas... are defined and criticized as "masculine." I'm convinced it's because "anything I don't like" is labeled masculine.
It's always an insult.